Ask for Help

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Ask for Help; Don't do it alone

"Chastity is a difficult, long term matter; one must wait patiently for it to bear fruit, for the happiness of loving kindness which it must bring. But at the same time, chastity is the sure way to happiness."
- Pope John Paul II


“I am not sure I am ready to ask for help!”  I’ve often heard this cry from those who are struggling with impurity.  The first step in recovery is realizing the problem is out of hand.  Asking God for help can be much easier than to accept help from God through an individual.  God the Father “helped” us through a person, Jesus Christ.   Be not afraid to accept help!

Father Ken VanHaverbeke


SAINT IGNATIUS OF ANTIOCH, from letters written on the way to martyrdom, 107A.D.
“If anyone is able to persevere in chastity to honor the flesh of the Lord, let him do so in all humility.”

Biblical Story of asking for help: Mark 10: 46-52

“They came to Jericho. And as he was leaving Jericho with his disciples and a sizable crowd, Bartimaeus, a blind man, the son of Timaeus, sat by the roadside begging.

On hearing that it was Jesus of Nazareth, he began to cry out and say, "Jesus, son of David, have pity on me."

And many rebuked him, telling him to be silent. But he kept calling out all the more, "Son of David, have pity on me."

Jesus stopped and said, "Call him." So they called the blind man, saying to him, "Take courage; get up, he is calling you."

He threw aside his cloak, sprang up, and came to Jesus.

Jesus said to him in reply, "What do you want me to do for you?" The blind man replied to him, "Master, I want to see."

Jesus told him, "Go your way; your faith has saved you." Immediately he received his sight and followed him on the way.”

Bartimaeus needed the help of the very people that rebuked him.  These very same people help him to get to Jesus.  Bartimaeus was ready to throw off his cloak and spring up for help.

What about you?  Are you ready to ask for help???

Seven Steps to Freedom: Focus on Step Four:

“Don’t do it alone:  get help.  A spiritual director and perhaps professional help.”

Who to ask?

-Your parish priest.  Contact me at and I can send you names of priests who have offered to help;

-Find a counselor at

-Go to for information on how to pick a therapist!

-Diocese of Wichita Catholic Charities Counseling Service,

-online coaching and program for overcoming unwanted sexual behavior,

“Asking for help does not mean we are weak or incompetent. It usually indicates an advanced level of honesty and intelligence.”

Anne Wilson Schaef, author