Death of a Spouse

Whether your time together was short or lasted a lifetime, the death of a soul mate is a tragedy terrible to imagine until it happens. While every marriage is unique, the subject of spousal death is one well explored by authors who experienced such a separation in their own lives. The following books are meant to show solidarity with your suffering and provide helpful tips for journeying with your grief.

 

A Grief Observed
by C. S. Lewis

When C.S. Lewis lost his wife to cancer, he went through a crisis of faith and recorded his experiences in four journals. These journals give remarkable insight into the grief process of the newly bereaved and illustrate his process of coming back to God with a clearer understanding of the purpose of grief and an appreciation for the importance of Christian bereavement.

The Tender Scar: Life after the Death of a Spouse
by Richard Mabry

Taking a similar note from C.S. Lewis, Dr. Richard Mabry uses journal entries following the death of his wife to illustrate points such as combatting funeral flashbacks, reviewing the souvenirs of a lifetime, facing holidays, or remembering an anniversary. He offers bread crumbs of hope along a path of grief for those that follow behind.

Healing a Spouse’s Grieving Heart: 100 Practical Ideas After Your Husband or Wife Dies
by Dr. Alan Wolfelt

Written as part of a series of books, Healing a Spouse's Grieving Heart: 100 Practical Ideas After Your Husband or Wife Dies offers heartfelt and practical advice for how to react in the absence of the many roles a spouse played in your life. This books helps to keep the mourning focused on the tasks in life that need accomplished, helping them to keep putting one foot in front of the other.

 

WidowNet

This web site provides online information and self-help resources for, and by, widows and widowers. Topics range from grief, recovery, finances, legal issues, and many more. The site also has an active messaging forum to interact with other users and share your experiences and advice.

 

Young Widow

Similar to WidowNet but focused towards those who lose their spouse early in the marriage, this site offers resources, bulletin boards, information on finding a support group, and a messaging forum to interact with other users.

 

Good Grief of Kansas

Good Grief of Kansas is a self-help nonprofit organization that provides local bereavement programs in Wichita, Clearwater, and Derby. They provide the service free of charge and rely on voluntary donations to continue to operate. They offer a Widowed Support Group as well as a Widowed and Young support group. Call them at (316) 612-0700 for scheduling details and locations.