Father Jarrod Lies finishes his studies

Pastor of St. Francis of Assisi awarded a licentiate in sacred theology
Father Jarrod Lies has a lot more time, now that his four-year odyssey for a licentiate in sacred theology has ended.
What does he do with that extra time?
“Be the best pastor that I can be!” he said last week from his office at St. Francis of Assisi Parish in Wichita.
Father Lies’ licentiate, a degree just below a doctorate, was awarded through Rome’s Pontifical University of Saint Thomas Aquinas, known as the Angelicum, by Sacred Heart Seminary in Detroit. The licentiate is in pastoral ministry with an emphasis on the new evangelization.
His thesis is closely aligned to the diocese.
“The purpose of this particular thesis was to be a single-source summary of the documentation that we have in Wichita concerning stewardship as we practice it here in the Diocese of Wichita,” he said.
“In Wichita we have a lot of oral traditions about stewardship. We also have a lot of written pamphlets and booklets and different resources. But they’re small and they’re also scattered kind of far and wide. So, I collected as much as I could and then I turned it into this particular summary.”
The summary includes information from an interview of Bishop Emeritus Eugene J. Gerber along with information from some of the bishop’s national presentations.
Father Lies began studying for his licentiate while director of the diocesan Office of Faith Formation so as to be more of service to the priests of the diocese. A year after he began his studies, though, he was assigned as pastor of St. Francis of Assisi Parish.
“So, the emphasis of the degree shifted from being a resource as a Chancery official to being the best pastor that I could be,” he said.
He also studied the “new evangelization,” practical ways to invite people back into the Catholic Church and to be able to maintain them and their lives within the church.
Several of his professors were names well-known around the world: Dr. Ralph Martin, Dr. Janet Smith, Dr. Mary Healy, Dr. Carl Keating, and Fr. John McDermott.
It was four years of constant work, Fr. Lies said, of his distance education. “I’d go away for five weeks for four summers (at Sacred Heart) and then during the school year I’d take one class each semester.”
He self-published his thesis, A Grateful Response to God’s Abundant Gifts, which is available at Amazon.com. It can be found under his name Rev. C. Jarrod Lies. There is a Kindle as well as a hardback edition.
Father Lies said at the end of his studies he was required to prepare a class, called a Lectio Corum, Latin for the “heart of reading,” for three of his professors who hold doctors in theology. He had to prepare 10 45-minute classes and gather an annotative bibliography for each.
Once they were accepted, his professors suggested three topics, from which he chose one. “I presented it to them for 45 minutes and then they asked me 45 minutes of questions about that topic,” he said. “So, it was actually a delightful and beautiful end.”

Deacon Brungardt writes ‘end of life’ article for quarterly

The Rev. Mr. Michael Brungardt lifts the Easter candle during the Holy Saturday liturgy at the Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception. He is shining the light on physician assisted suicide with a recently published article. (Advance photo)

The National Catholic Bioethics Quarterly recently published an article, “A Study of Accompaniment at the End of Life,” by Deacon Michael G. Brungardt.
The article distinguishes the need for “a truly ethical response” and an “authentic, loving accompaniment” of those who are in the dying process, Deacon Brungardt writes. “Emphasis is often placed on the care of circumstances rather than the care of persons.”
The article stems from his study of the “right to die” and “death with dignity” movements that seem to be gaining in popularity in the United States and in Europe. Several states already have legalized suicide laws.
Accompanying a dying person will likely be uncomfortable and awkward, he said.
“We can’t always just provide that simple answer that makes everything OK, but what we can do is stay right alongside them and take seriously these questions that they’re asking,” he said.
Family members and friends can be with them by allowing the questions that are challenging the dying also challenge those accompanying the dying.
“Because when we start to enter into those questions – that’s the accompaniment I’m talking about. We can truly enter into their suffering because, when we finally get down to it, they’re not the only ones who have to struggle with that question. We have to deal with them as well. So, that’s truly a very concrete way that we can be with people in these moments.”
Deacon Brungardt spends most of his time in the article discussing the fear and anxiety that most people face as they are dying.
“Yet because death, which exacerbates these questions, has been reduced to a technical-biological reality, we ‘shrink from being fully alive’; we shrink throughout our lives, but especially at the end of life or when we witnessed the end of another’s life.”
A common concern among the dying is the fear of losing one’s dignity, he writes, or dignity is associated with being in control of oneself, one’s bodily functions, or how people perceive the dying.
In addition the dying desire autonomy which results in a desire to avoid death as something which happens to them. “Put another way,” Deacon Brungardt, quoting another writer on the subject says,“those who make the argument for PAS (physician-assisted suicide) from autonomy are not really arguing that they should be able to die as they see fit, but rather that they should be able ‘to avoid dying,’ to avoid this experience altogether.”
To allow physician-assisted suicide is nonsensical, he writes, because it is not a response to the problem and is not a treatment.
Loved ones, instead, are called to play an important role with those who are dying, he writes.
“Their role, like that of the doctors, is also one of accompaniment, albeit of a different nature. In this case, true loving accompaniment dictates a total giving of oneself to the other person, in such a way that a coexistence of persons results.”
Deacon Brungardt closes his article by quoting Pope Francis’2015 exhortation to the Pontifical Academy for Life: “The objective of palliative care is to alleviate suffering in the final stages of illness and at the same time to ensure the patient appropriate human accompaniment.”
Loving accompaniment, he writes, is “not consenting to the easy way or the path of least resistance, but being with them as they engage the questions at the core of their humanity, entering that questioning with them.”

More about the Rev. Mr. Brungardt
The Mundelein Seminary student is a member of Church of the Magdalen in Wichita. His father, Dr. Gerard Brungardt of Wichita, sparked his interest in the subject. Dr. Brungardt, a physician, holds a licentiate degree in bioethics from the Pontifical Athanaeum Regina Apostolorum in Rome.
Deacon Brungardt is a candidate for a licentiate in sacred theology and at Mundelein, located north of Chicago, and is scheduled to be ordained to the priesthood May 26 at his home parish.

St. Pat students learning about gardens, health

Bryan Mann helps a group of St. Patrick School children plant potatoes in a garden bed northwest of the school. The garden is an effort to improve the health of the children and the neighborhood. (Advance photo)

Students at St. Patrick Catholic school in Wichita are growing up – and growing vegetables.
A garden has been installed in a lot northwest of the school by Children First of Kansas, a nonprofit organization whose goals are to increase fresh food eating habits for students and their families, address food insecurities, and decrease obesity and diet-related diseases.
Lori Barnes, a social worker with Children First, said the teaching garden at Saint Patrick is helping the neighborhood in addition to educating children.
“What this will do is provide nutritious food for the people in the area who have food insecurity and to go to the Lord’s Pantry, the local food pantry,” she said. “This will improve the nutrition of our students and then also improve their lives.”
Young students planted cabbage seedlings, onion bulbs, and potatoes Tuesday, April 10, in 10 raised 4' by 12' beds. Additional vegetables will be planted as soil temperatures warm.
Children First will construct eight additional raised beds this summer and plan to install more garden beds on the north side of the lot next year.
A Vista volunteer, Alf Martin, oversees the garden with the assistance of board member Bryan Mann.

Stewardship conference Saturday to feature Curtis Martin, Fr. Jarrod Lies

Wichita Adore Ministries will be a part of the conference.

Wichita Adore Ministries will assist with the Eucharistic Adoration
Curtis Martin, the founder and CEO of the Fellowship of Catholic University Students, and Father Jarrod Lies, pastor of St. Francis of Assisi Parish will be the keynote speakers at the diocesan Stewardship Conference Saturday, April 21, at Church of the Magdalen in Wichita.
The conference will begin at 9 a.m. with a Mass to be celebrated by Bishop Carl A. Kemme. The event will end at 3:30 p.m.
FOCUS is a national outreach to college students that Martin founded in 1998. In 2004, Curtis and his wife, Michaelann, were awarded the Benemerenti Medal by Pope Saint John Paul II for their outstanding service to the church. In 2011, Pope Benedict XVI appointed Curtis as a consultor to the Pontifical Council of the New Evangelization.
Father Ken Van Haverbeke, director of Stewardship for the diocese, said the event will inspire attendees and give them practical help in changing the practice of their faith from simply maintaining it to becoming missionaries.
“In addition to deepening the faith of those attending,” he said, “participants will learn about ways about how to encounter and follow Jesus and how to share that encounter with their family, parish and community.”
A panel will answer questions from those attending. In addition to Martin and Fr. Lies, the panel will feature Fr. John Jirak, pastor of Church of the Magdalen; Renee Riter, stewardship coordinator at Church of the Blessed Sacrament; Anthony Keiser, director of the diocesan Office of Faith Formation; and Kim Scripsick, stewardship coordinator at Our Lady of Lourdes Pittsburg. Joe Dellasega, of The Dellasega Group, will facilitate the discussion.
Wichita Adore Ministries will close the conference with Eucharist adoration enhanced by beautiful lighting and music.
Registration is $20 per person and includes lunch, snacks, beverages, handouts, and other materials. No parish or parishioner will be turned away due to finances. The event is free for priests and religious.

Want to hear Martin, Father Lies?
To register or for more information visit CatholicDioceseOfWichita.org/conferences/2018-conference.

The graces of assignment changes

The View from the Rectory Window
By Fr. Ken Van Haverbeke
Might it be a papal encyclical? Perhaps a letter from the bishop? Or possibly an article explaining the mysteries of God’s Kingdom? Or do I dare say a “View from the Rectory Window” column? Would any of these articles or columns be the number one reason parishioners would go to the diocesan web page to read, making it go viral?
The answer, as you have guessed, is no! The number one “hit” on the diocesan website is when the announcement is made for new priest assignments! Assignment changes are both exciting and upsetting; a cause of both joy and sorrow. They are a living embodiment of the Pascal Mystery, both for the parish and for the priest.
As a participant of assignment changes, and as a priest who has experienced the change of three bishops, I have found times of assignment change of a shepherd to be a time of both grace and temptation. Saint Paul said it well in the Acts of the Apostles, “Now, compelled by the Spirit, I am going to Jerusalem.” (Acts 20:22) Well, I guess I really could say, “Now compelled by the appointment of the bishop, I go…” And I believe it be the same Spirit compelling both. I believe it is grace at work.
Assignment change as a time of grace. I was struggling. I did not want to go. My assignment was clear, I understood the why’s and how’s, but I was not ready to leave. Nor was I ready to start all over again. I had just felt like I was becoming a shepherd to the parishioners, a father to my flock, when I was reassigned.
Leaving is difficult enough, but having to walk into a new rectory, a new parish, even a new town, or part of town, but I had to do so with a confident and joy filled face. It is difficult to act as if you are not grieving. To act as if ‘you consider life to be of no importance, if only you can finish the course and the ministry received and bear witness to the gospel of God’s grace.’ (Saint Paul, paraphrased from Acts 20:24) I am not unfortunately, Saint Paul.
But there is a grace in leaving and accepting a new assignment. For one, it gives you a chance to re-boot, to make changes that otherwise would either raise eyebrows or even shock the parishioners of the parish you are leaving.
I remember wanting to stop going to the nursing home on Thursdays, and start going on Fridays. To make such a change, it would be easier to make water into wine, then to disrupt the schedule I had created. I also wanted to make changes in the way I ministered to the youth because I had become older, and the youthfulness in my bones had become arthritic. No longer could I sit with a bus load of teens; no longer could I, nor would I, stay up all night at a “lock in.” And then I also wanted to change my day off! Talk about a change! “What do you mean Father is taking Tuesday’s off now? How many days off does he get now?”
Little things, but sometimes making little changes when people get used to you, is like changing the direction of a large ship. It takes time and lots of tug boats! But a move, allows for one to make changes or to try new schedules. That is a grace.
Another grace in an assignment change is the chance of renewal. As a diocesan priest, I’ve committed myself to the bishop in a particular diocese. While I may feel at home in a particular town or parish, I am a priest for the diocese, not a priest for a parish or town.
Leaving allows me to embrace loss, a kind of dying, and the opportunity to renew my commitment to the entire diocese, not just one parish. No different than the changes parishioners experience in moving, change of job, or life’s transitions within a marriage.
After many years at a particular parish, the send off was filled with gratitude and even tears. I had baptized many of their children, lovingly cared for the spiritual welfare of their students in the school and PSR, and sat by many of their loved one’s death bed. I was loved and appreciated, and most of them did not want me to leave. Most of them….remember the percentages: 10 percent of a parish appreciates the pastor; 10 percent can’t stand the pastor; and 80 percent really have no opinion.
No sooner than six months later did a former parishioner state, “We really hated to see you go, but Father B., has really brought in a fresh way of looking at things!” I wasn’t deflated; in fact, it was a reason I knew a change was necessary. I needed a change even though I did not know it at the time, and the parish did too! A grace of a change in assignment.
In my next article, I will write about another grace, that of mission. I changed the parish, but the parish changed me too.

Camp Totus Tuus: faith, fun and much more

By Matthew Dolechek
Before my first summer as a missionary at Camp Totus Tuus, someone told me, “A bad day at camp is better than a good day anywhere else.” I took it as a corny phrase coming from a past camper filled with nostalgia.
However, it wasn’t long into that summer that I understood their message. I had come down with some bad allergies about half way through the second week; my throat was in such pain to the point I could hardly talk. I endured and did my job to the best of my ability, and yet as the team was driving back from camp that Friday, I realized just how great of a week it had been.
Despite being as sick as a dog, I was humbled with the opportunity to be a witness of Christ and to show his love and joy to a bunch of campers as I was working with an amazing group of college students who were willing to sacrifice with the same goal in mind: bring these campers closer to Christ. The sacrifice and pain was totally worth it as I was able to see these kids become stronger Catholics in their relationship with Jesus Christ throughout the week. The beauty of being a camp counselor is that opportunity to change lives is given every week for eight weeks for hundreds of kids.
Totus Tuus is powerful because its impact on the kids is not limited to the week they are there. Rather, the impact is a lifetime change towards authentic Christian discipleship. The week long experience turns into a lifestyle living totally for Christ.
This camp is completely centered on Christ with daily adoration, Mass, rosary, the liturgy of the hours, and many more Christ-centered activities including counselors giving testimonies of their journey towards Christ. But with all of this prayer is a whole lot of fun. Kids get to enjoy a huge water slide, ninjas and dance parties at night, and classic Totus Tuus games like “skadoosh” which is a mixture of soccer, hand ball, and arbitrary rules.
Being chosen to direct this amazing camp in the summer of 2018 is truly one of the most humbling and exciting opportunities of my life. The preparing and planning process for the summer has taken me to a deeper place of trust in God. I have realized that the program is so much bigger than I am and that is all in the hands of God.
Dolechek is Totus Tuus Camp director.

Want to attend Totus Tuus Camp?
Visit TotusTuusofWichita.org for more information. Prices for Camp Totus Tuus go up on May 1.

Volunteer uses retirement to serve the hungry

By Heather Fellows
Volunteering wasn’t an activity that Vicky Grow planned for her retirement. But when her husband asked her to help him as a volunteer at Our Daily Bread Food Pantry, she jumped at the chance.
“We discovered he needed open heart surgery, so he asked me to come along to help. If he wasn’t able to keep up, I would fill in for him. Well, I came and filled in to help him out – and I just took over!” Vicky said.
The joy Vicky feels in serving the clients of the food pantry keeps her coming back at least twice a week.
“The people that come in here, they’re so grateful, and they give me more than I (give to) them because they thank you for listening and they thank you for the food,” she says.
Though some days present challenges, Vicky connects deeply with her volunteer work. She feels a humble reminder of her personal blessings each time she volunteers, engaging with clients from all walks of life, each with a different story behind their need.
“I wish everyone had an opportunity to be here and we would all understand the great need for others, not just to fill their baskets with the food, but just somebody that’ll listen,” she says. “You can’t fix any of their problems but it means so much to them just to listen.”
And listen she does. As Vicky describes a client whose son was murdered, her eyes fill with tears.
“All I can do is hug her,” she says quietly. “Every month she comes in and I make sure I get her. She updates me on how she’s doing… I just let that woman talk. She trusted me with that story.”
Vicky’s passion for helping others shines as she credits her desire to help to the Lord.
“He qualifies those he calls. I was not qualified, but he qualified me,’’ she says. “If you keep it in mind, it’s his pantry. He’s sending these people… for me to learn something from them, and to give myself to them.”
To learn more about volunteering at Our Daily Bread Food Pantry, or any of the programs offered through Catholic Charities, please visit www.CatholicCharitiesWichita.org.
Fellows is Parish Outreach coordinator for Catholic Charities.

Diocesan news, April 20, 2018

Trash can clean-up stewardship — Forty-five students from East High School in Wichita scrubbed trash cans, tables, and chairs in The Lord’s Diner parking lot Thursday, April 12. Inside students cleaned walls, vents, and floors. Another group helped with landscaping at the Diner’s Hillside location, moving mulch and planting perennials. A third group from East High delivered donated backpacks of necessities for Diner homeless guests. (Courtesy photo)

Bishop Kemme’s calendar
Here is Bishop Carl A. Kemme’s calendar for the next several weeks.
April 21: Opening Mass for Stewardship Conference at 9 a.m. at Church of the Magdalen in Wichita; PSU Campus Ministry Mass, banquet and ball in Pittsburg
April 22: Confirmation Mass at 10 a.m. for St. Andrew and St. Xavier in Independence; lunch with prospective seminarians in Independence
April 23-24: Kansas Catholic Conference of Bishops in Kansas City, Jesus Caritas in Kansas City
April 24: Confirmation Mass at 6:30 p.m. at St. Elizabeth Ann Seton in Wichita
April 26: Confirmation Mass at 6:30 p.m. for all Hutchinson parishes at Holy Cross
April 28: Confirmation Mass at 10 a.m. at Church of the Holy Spirit in Goddard; Kapaun Mt. Carmel 130th School Anniversary
April 29: Confirmation Mass at 10:30 a.m. at St. James in Augusta; Center of Hope Annual Dinner
May 1: Diocesan Confirmation at 6:30 p.m. at the Cathedral for St. Peter, Schulte; St. Joseph, Conway Springs; All Saints, Wichita; St. Joseph, Wichita
May 2: Confirmation Mass at 6:30 p.m. for St. Patrick in Wichita
May 4-5: Knights of Columbus State Convention in Overland Park
May 5: Confirmation Mass at 7 p.m. at the Cathedral
May 6 : Confirmation Mass at 3 p.m. at the Cathedral
May 8: Confirmation Mass at 6:30 p.m. at St. Catherine of Siena in Wichita
May 10: Senior Adult Appreciation Mass and luncheon at the Cathedral
May 11: Pastor/Principal Appreciation Mass and luncheon, Newman Baccalaureate Mass at 6 p.m. at the Cathedral
May 12: Holy Family Home Educators Catholic Group Mass and graduation, Confirmation Mass at 2 p.m. at St. Patrick in Kingman
May 13: Trinity Catholic High School graduation at 2 p.m. in Hutchinson
May 16: St. Mary Colgan graduation at 7 p.m. in Pittsburg
May 19: Ordination to the diaconate at 10 a.m. at the Cathedral
May 20: Kapaun Mt. Carmel Catholic High School graduation at 1:30 p.m. at Hartman Arena, Bishop Carroll Catholic High School Graduation at 4 p.m. at Hartman Arena
May 24: Evening with Seminarians at 6 p.m. at the Cathedral
May 26: Ordination to the priesthood at 10 a.m. at the Church of the Magdalen

Bishop Kemme ordains deacon in Salina’s cathedral Saturday, April 7
Bishop Carl A. Kemme ordained Mike Leiker to the transitional diaconate Saturday, April 7, at Sacred Heart Cathedral in Salina.
Bishop Kemme ordained the Rev. Mr. Leiker because the Salina diocese is still without a bishop. The former ordinary, Bishop Edward J. Weisenburger, was moved Nov. 29, 2017, to the Diocese of Tucson, Arizona.
Deacon Leiker, 44, grew up in Hays but after a professional career and while teaching at Pittsburg State University, he felt a call to explore a vocation to the priesthood. Because he was over the age of 35 and because the Diocese of Wichita had no acting bishop at the time to wave the age requirement, he was directed to his home Diocese of Salina.
Because of the switch in dioceses, at the end of the ordination Mass Bishop Kemme quipped to those attending the ordination: “You’re welcome!”

St. Gianna offering sports physicals
St. Gianna Family Medicine is offering sports physicals from 8 a.m. to noon Saturday, May 5.
The office is located at 2135 N. Ridge Rd., suite 400, in Wichita.
The cost is $20 and no appointment is necessary.
All of the proceeds will be donated to the diocesan Holy Family Special Needs Foundation to support students with special needs.

Senior adult Mass, luncheon with the bishop May 10
Senior adults of the Diocese of Wichita are invited to a Mass and luncheon with Bishop Carl A. Kemme at 10 a.m. Thursday May 10, in the Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception, located at Broadway and Central in Wichita.
The Mass is in appreciation of how older adults in the diocese have generously given of their time, talent, and treasure to build our churches and schools and to make our diocese what it is today.
A catered lunch with homemade pie and all the fixings will be served after Mass. Door prizes will be given away.
Register before May 3rd by sending $5 to the Office of Marriage and Family Life, 437 N. Topeka, Wichita, KS 67202. Make checks payable to Catholic Diocese of Wichita.

The pope’s intention
Here is Pope Francis’ prayer intention for this month:
Universal: For those who have responsibility in economic matters that economists may have the courage to reject any economy of exclusion and know how to open new paths.

Becky Knapp, left, program coordinator of the diocesan Office of Marriage and Family Life, poses with NFP research scientist and presenter, Dr. Joseph Stanford, and others participating in the Humanae Vitae Symposium in Washington, D.C., from left, Michele Chambers, Sister Candice Fier, Dr. Karen Poehailos, and Dr. Faith Daggs.

Several ‘last chance’ Masses now available
There are now several late Sunday Masses in Wichita, including two in Spanish, for those who hit the snooze button one too many times:
5 p.m.: Holy Savior
5:15 p.m.: Blessed Sacrament
6 p.m.: St. Elizabeth Ann Seton; St. Anne, en español
6:30 p.m.: Our Lady of Perpetual Help, en español
7 p.m.: St. Paul, WSU; St. Patrick, en español
9 p.m.: St. Paul, WSU

Pinwheels for child safety awareness — Patty Powell, secretary for the diocesan Human Resources office, decorates one of the planters in front of the Chancery in Wichita with blue pinwheels and streamers to promote interest in National Child Abuse Awareness Month. The diocesan Safe Environment office coordinated several activities this month at the Chancery to highlight the need to be vigilant about providing a safe environment in the church communities. (Advance photo)

Parish news, April 20, 2018

Walking with Purpose bible study growing after St. Catherine start
A women’s bible study group for mothers of St. Catherine of Siena Parish in Wichita opened their arms three years ago to all interested women.
The Busy Moms Bible Study at St. Catherine’s became Walking with Purpose so that all women could grow in their faith through study of scripture, support in learning, and fellowship.
“I knew women were hungry to understand scripture, but in a way that wasn’t too burdensome, as they also worked and raised their families,” said Danielle Holtzman, one of the ministry’s volunteers. “I also knew that having a study that was catechetically sound and would be ongoing from year to year was of primary importance.”
Walking with Purpose is designed for women in all walks of life. The program focuses on scriptural study, daily prayer and reflection, a series of videos, and weekly small-group discussions.
St. Thomas Aquinas Parish in Wichita has also begun a Walking with Purpose bible study.
St. Catherine’s pastor, Father Dan Spexarth, said the Bible study encourages women to become more active and more likely to take leadership roles in their parishes.
“There are lots of programs that help us grow in our faith so that we can be better Catholics and spouses and parents,” he said.
“Walking with Purpose has inspired women to take responsibility for the success of the parish. St. Catherine is not just a good parish for them but good, in part, because of them. I would recommend it highly to all parishes in the Diocese of Wichita.”
Interested in Walking with Purpose?
A presentation about the Walking with Purpose bible study will be made at 9:30 a.m. and 7 p.m. Wednesday, May 16, at St. Catherine of Siena Parish, 3636 N. Ridge Road in Wichita.
Register by visiting SaintCatherineWichita.com/wwp-informational-meeting-registration. Registration is limited. For more information, email Katie Reichenberger at katfhsu@hotmail.com, or Jennifer Mays at jennifermayswwp@gmail.com.

Holy Savior golf tournament April 23
Holy Savior will hold its annual golf tournament on Monday, April 23, at Willowbend Golf Club, 8001 E. Mulberry in Wichita.
The tournament begins at noon. The cost is $120 per golfer and includes green fee, cart, beverages, range balls and a barbecue dinner following the tournament.
The event is a benefit for Holy Savior Catholic Church and Academy.
Register online at holy-savior.org or send payment to Holy Savior Catholic Church, 1425 N. Chautauqua, Wichita, KS 67214.

Spiritual Life Center news, April 20, 2018

Dr. Enzler to speak at CAB breakfast May 2
Dr. Mario Enzler, finance professor at Catholic University of America’s Busch School of Business and Economics, is the next Catholic Assembly for Business speaker Wednesday, May 2, at the Spiritual Life Center in Wichita.
Breakfast will be served at 7 a.m. The event ends by 9 a.m. The event is free for CAB members. A $10 donation is suggested for non-members.
Dr. Enzler is a former Swiss Guard under St. John Paul II and also conducted the Swiss Guard Band. He has experience in investment banking and corporate finance and is a regular speaker about how St. John Paul II helped him become a better man, executive, and leader.

SLC’s annual Mothers Retreat Day May 12
WICHITA – The Spiritual Life Center will host its annual retreat for mothers from 10 a.m. to 2 p.m. Saturday, May 12. The theme is “Find Rest in the Lord.”
The retreat will focus on helping moms figure out how to enter more deeply into prayer and how to make a Holy Hour. The day includes a talk on prayer, a Mediterranean style lunch including desserts and mimosas, daily Mass, social time, and time for silence with our Lord in adoration to conclude.
The cost for the Saturday program is $15 per person. Register by visiting the Spiritual Life Center’s webpage at www.slcwichita.org or by calling (316) 744-0167.

Popular Catholic speakers to headline the SLC’s Catholic Culture Conference June 1-3
By Dusty Gates

The term “culture” gets thrown around a lot. Ironically, often times we use it when we really mean something very different from the true sense of the word.
The 1980’s pop group “The Culture Club” comes to mind as a particularly laughable counterexample to what the word is supposed to mean. In the 21st century, references to culture are commonly references to multi-culturalism, which often ends in pluralism, which really means no culture at all. Other times we use it in a negative sense, in an almost derogatory fashion, when we talk about the problems with our modern culture.
A Catholic culture is an environment which fosters our authentic development; in mind, body, and spirit. John Senior described this culture as “the natural environment of truth, assisted by art, ordered intrinsically, that is, from within, to the praise, reverence, and service of God our Lord. To restore it, we must learn its language.”
This is the motivation, and hope, for the Fourth Annual Catholic Culture Conference to be held at the Spiritual Life Center on June 1-3. The theme of this year’s conference is “Catholic Thought in an Age of Confusion.”
Three national speakers, Dale Ahlquist, Bradley Birzer, and Joseph Pearce, have been invited to the event. Ahlquist is one of the most respected G.K. Chesterton scholars in the world, is the creator and host of the popular EWTN series “The Apostle of Common Sense,” and is the author of three books on Chesterton.
Birzer holds the Russell Amos Kirk Chair in American Studies and is Professor of History at Hillsdale College, Michigan. He is author of books about St. Augustine, J.R.R. Tolkien, and others.
In today’s politically charged media atmosphere, we often look for answers to the biggest questions in the wrong places. Our surest answers come not from a particular school or party, but from our Lord, who teaches us through his Church. We don’t as much need so called conservative or so called liberal solutions, as much as we need truly Catholic ones.
The conference will consist of multiple sessions, each geared towards some particular component of Catholic life in our modern age. The talks and discussions will give each participant the opportunity to learn more about how Catholicism relates to – and is intended to positively change – our culture.
The conference will begin on Friday evening with an opening lecture by Joseph Pearce at 7 p.m., followed by a reception. Saturday will feature talks by Joseph Pearce and Dale Ahlquist and a banquet dinner. On Sunday, we will be joined by Bradley Birzer for our closing session.
Want to attend the conference?
Space is limited, so sign up early by calling the Spiritual Life Center at 316-744-0167 or visiting us online at slcwichita.org. Overnight full weekend rate (includes bedroom Friday and Saturday, and all meals, socials, and lectures): Early bird, $145 per person (single occupancy) or$120 per person (double occupancy).
Commuter full weekend rate, includes all lectures, meals, and socials: $100.
Partial weekend attendance options: Friday night only, $20; Full Saturday, $65; Saturday, daytime only, $45 (includes breakfast, morning and afternoon talks, and lunch); half day: $25; banquet only $25; Sunday only: $20 (lunch and lecture)
Gates is director of adult education at the SLC.

Learn how to parent a challenging child Wednesday, May 9 at the SLC
By Mika Gross

Feeling frustrated and losing one’s temper with a challenging child will only prolong resolution of the problem.
I know, because I have one: A challenging child, that is…and a temper that is sometimes lost. Parents are invited to a course at the Spiritual Life Center called, “Parenting a Challenging Child” at 7 p.m. Wednesday, May 9.
Keep in mind that challenging children have their own struggles. They may have real insecurities and anxieties, have suffered trauma, lost attachments, failed to adapt to new situations, have learning difficulties, or have impulsivity that leads to trouble. Some children show bad behaviors that reflect bigger problems within the family system.
We call these children “symptom bearers,” and their burden is to cry out for the whole family to heal. Some children just have such strong personalities that they require an exceptionally keen instinct and creative approach from their adults.
Whereas parental frustration and anger with a child is a sign that a problem is growing and needs to be addressed, it can also prevent parents from “seeing” the child God’s way and letting God show the path to better ground.
Behavior that does not serve a purpose tends to go away. Children who are busy using their God-given gifts will likely give up less productive bad behavior.
Parents are in the perfect position to observe their children and look for spiritual gifts or charisms. Charisms are special abilities given to all Christians by the Holy Spirit to give them the power both to represent Christ and to be a channel of God’s goodness for people.
Helping your child see their own gifts and learn to put them to work can be a wonderful joy for parents. Anger can cloud our eyes from seeing our children as worthy of doing good work for others.
Many challenging children will naturally mature through difficult periods, but some have underlying problems that need solved.
In either case, children need a calm, observant, and patient parent. Underneath challenging behaviors are amazing gifts. It’s not uncommon for the most challenging children to grow into people who later serve mankind in amazing ways.
Want to sign up?
Learn more about this topic and tactics towards better parenting on Wednesday, May 9 from 7 to 8:30 p.m. at the Spiritual Life Center in Wichita. Registration may be found at www.SLCWichita.org. The cost is $10 which includes the program and refreshments.
Gross is a counselor at The Parent’s Place in Wichita.

Administrative Professionals Retreat April 25 at the Spiritual Life Center
Father Ken Van Haverbeke and Father Jim Weldon will present this year’s Administrative Professionals’ Retreat Day Wednesday, April 25, at the Spiritual Life Center in Wichita.
The retreat is for all workers in the vineyard, whether as a secretary, administrative assistant, receptionist, or any administrative support professional.
Lunch will be served at 11:45 a.m., and will feature a Mediterranean style lunch menu including grilled pita and hummus, chicken kabobs on a bed of tarragon rice, with grilled veggies, a Greek salad, and dessert.
After lunch there will be time for a walk, socializing, and quiet prayer. Participants will reconvene to “walk through the Mass.” Father Jim Weldon will present on the practice of “ad orientem,” that is, the priest facing away from the people, and then Father Van Haverbeke will present answers to questions such as: What is the purpose of the drop of water into the wine? What is the meaning behind the colors at Mass, the type of bread/wine, and other practical aspects and meanings at the Mass?
The restful day will conclude with the celebration of the Mass.
The retreat begins at 9 a.m. and concludes at 3 p.m. The cost is $20. Reservations may be made at www.slcwichita.org or by calling (316) 744-0167.

Monthly Mass with Children May 3 at the Spiritual Life Center
Caregivers and their children are invited to the monthly “KidsPrayToo!: Mass with Children” at the Spiritual Life Center Thursday, May 3. The Mass begins at 11:15 a.m. and on this particular Friday, Fr. Van Haverbeke will speak especially to the littlest among us.
The program gives parents and caregivers an opportunity to teach their children without worrying about disturbing other Mass goers around them.
All families are invited to pack a lunch to enjoy in our dining room or courtyard afterwards.